First and foremost, I would like to wish you a Happy New Year!! I hope it isn’t too late to say that, we’re still in January, so I think it’s allowed 😉
2018! I thank God for another year and another blessing.
But before we get into the New Year gist, I would like to talk about self-care.
“I have come to believe that that caring for myself is not self-indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival” – Audre Lorde
This was one of my biggest lessons of 2017, to take care of myself more. It didn’t quite hit me that I wasn’t taking care of myself properly. Woke up, as usual, got ready for the day, as usual, I ate (healthy most of the time lol), went to either university, work, caught up with friends etc.
I thought I was doing everything accordingly, following a routine of mine that I’ve had for years.
Until I snapped…
Yes, I snapped… I lost it all, my marbles as they would say. I was exhausted, frustrated, lost and just fed up! I didn’t know who I was anymore… My skin was breaking out incredibly, I lost so much hair, I was praying less and less, I couldn’t sleep, failure here and there, L’s upon L’s, it seemed like everything was crashing and burning and I just wanted out…
Funny enough none would have known what I was going through because I wouldn’t talk about it as much. I focused more on being the jokester, comforting others and their problems, being the shoulder they could cry on or their cheerleader. I would deny myself the opportunity to present my truth… Sometimes I would deceive myself into believing that I was ok and what I was going through wasn’t that bad.
At one point I was like a decorated box with nothing but broken piece inside…
“I encourage you, to take control to take back your power. Make the time and effort to invest in yourself. Self-care and healing. Taking time for stillness and contemplation.
Reflect on your own behaviour. Decide what kind of person you want to be and then take the steps to be that person.” ― Akiroq Brost
Then I learnt that I need to take care of myself more, take time for me. Forgetting about all things that worried me or stressed me out. I had to get back to my happy place, I had to get back to the things that made me happy but importantly I had to take my power back!
It is so important that we don’t let the struggles of life or the routine of life push us to a place of no return. Funny enough I soon discovered that none or nothing can take my joy from me, they try but they can’t unless I allow it to happen.
Our happiness is truly in our hands…
Moreover, there is nothing wrong with getting help or talking about your problems with someone. I know that it can be hard. Sharing that side of you almost feels like you’re weak. Feeling like you can’t handle the pressure if you let someone in, it’s like a power struggle. I must admit I am that person or shall I say I was that person lol… But I understand now that there is nothing wrong with opening up. In fact, it shows strength. The ability to open up and talk is a sign of strength, growth and healing.
I am now putting myself first (God first 🙂 ) and taking care of myself. I would advise you to do the same. Because you matter a lot. Self-care is incredibly important.
Do what makes you happy, treat yourself, spoil yourself (ball on a budget 😉 ) take time for yourself, try to remove anything negative in your life, create a safe and positive atmosphere for yourself and don’t be afraid to open up…
Until Next Time,