Real Neat Blogger Award + Sunshine Blogger Award!!!

Hi guys, so I’m back and thank you so much for the nomination AnonymouslyAfroIrish.¬†

And yes, I’m late again, ugh I’m so sorry haha but I really appreciate the shoutout, I’ll definitely remember you in my acceptance speech ūüėČ lol. I really appreciate the opportunity.

I love AnonymouslyAfroIrish blog. It is so relatable and I feel like you can tell about her personality and her character through her blogs and that to me is amazing and genuine. Please do check out her blog, definitely worth the read :).

 

The rules for the Real Neat Blogger Award:

  1. Put the award logo on your blog.
  2. Thank the people who nominated you, linking to their blogs.
  3. Answer the 7 questions asked by the person who nominated you.
  4. Nominate any number of bloggers you like, linking to their blogs.
  5. Let them know you nominated them (by commenting on their blogs, etc.)

 

AnonymouslyAfroIrish’s Question’s

1. Do you feel you have come a long way since you started?

Yes definitely! I’m not the same person I was even a couple of months ago. It’s crazy¬†how with time we evolve and sometimes¬†can’t recognise the¬†person we once were…

 

2. What is the craziest conversation you have ever overheard?

Funny enough, I can’t think of any lol

 

3. Is there a moment in life that defined who you are today? If so, what?

Hmmm… Great question, refusal to accept failure… I’ve always been ambitious and because that I’ve never given up easily on my dreams and passion and that today can define me as a fighter… I guess lol

 

4. What would you tell your 10 year old self about the world?

Life will throw so many things at you. Society will set standards at their own pace but remember who you are and where you are going. Be yourself and do your thing. You are amazing and have so much to offer. None can stop you from shining. God is by your side.

 

5. What is your pet peeve?

Someone being rude. Ugh, it gets understand skin when someone is rude and try to belittle someone thinking that they’re better. I also don’t like liars. Can’t stand a liar…

 

7. The hardest thing you’ve ever had to do?

Face reality… It so hard when you have to wake up and face the music. It’s not a dream or movie but its reality. Its like

 

8. Dogs or Cats?

Not really into animals like that haha but Dogs ūüôā

 

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THE RULES FOR THE SUNSHINE BLOGGER AWARD:

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you.
  2. Answer the questions asked.
  3. Nominate other blogs and ask new questions for them.
  4. Finally, list the rules and include the Sunshine Blogger Award logo somewhere in the post.

 

Here my questions

  1. What is your favourite song and why?
  2. What is your favourite quote and why?
  3. What is your pet peeve?
  4. What would you tell your teenage self about life?
  5. What word describes you? and why?
  6. What are you passionate about?
  7. What country would like to travel to and why?

 

Nominations

YOUAREGOLDEN

amexawrites

 

I look forward to reading your answers.

P.s. You don‚Äôt have to do both awards its completely up to you what you choose to do¬†‚̧

Yours Sincerely,

Sincerely Tosin¬†¬†‚̧

 

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Forgiveness…

One of the biggest struggles we Christians can all relate to is forgiveness…

Forgiveness can be very hard especially when you’ve been hurt badly. Hurt to the point that the pain it left almost broke you… And sometimes the pain could be because of us failing ourselves and finding it hard to forgive ourselves.

 

I know I have…

 

I’ve made some mistakes in my time and at some point, I couldn’t find the heart to forgive myself. I carried the¬†burden for so long and it weighed on me day in and day out. I found myself, disappointed and angry. I didn’t feel good enough and because of that, I started to distant myself from God…

 

I prayed less and less, read my Bible less and less. I was ashamed and worried that God was not happy with me. All because I couldn’t imagine God forgiving me and me not forgiving myself.

 

But then…. I realised¬†that when we start to condemn ourselves constantly, we are opening the door to doubt, worry,¬† fear and shame. Those feelings and emotions we dwell on could eventually build a wedge between us and Christ. And that is exactly what the evil one wants. He wants us to continually¬†doubt ourselves and distance ourselves from God.

But the God we serve is merciful…

That revelation alone gave me the courage to forgive myself.

Daniel 9:9 “The Lord our God is merciful and forgiving, even though we have rebelled against him”

Psalm 86:5 “You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you”

 

The thing is forgiveness is a very important factor in our Christian life. It may not always be the easiest thing to do, considering that we are still human, and we sometimes feel things, however, forgiveness is very important and powerful.

 

Our hearts are free and light, our shoulders are¬†free and relaxed. That is what forgiveness¬†does to us, we feel free…¬†Because not forgiving can leave us entrapped in our own emotion. And sometimes we could be handing over our power because we refuse to rise and accept the gift given to us through Christ…

 

1 John 2:2 “In him, we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God‚Äôs grace”¬†

 

It is so important that we as children of God know that although we may make mistakes and fall sometimes, we shouldn’t however, always let our failures and mistakes hinder us from progressing and moving forward with our relationship with God.

Our walk with Jesus Christ is a continuous journey and we learn along the way. The strength to overcome the emotions and feelings is given to us.

 

Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”

 

Isaiah 41:19 “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand”

 

It is important to know that although you may have made some mistakes, I know I have, God still loves us and will always love us. Let your hearts not be weighed by doubts or disappointment. Let your heart be free because God has already forgiven you before you even confessed he just wants you to come to him, acknowledge those mistakes, admit to it and he will accept you with open arms.

 

To those that have wronged you, don’t give them power over you but be free and light-hearted. Although the pain may be fresh or old, it can still be healed…

 

So, let your hearts to be free…

Don’t let your mistakes and the others who have caused you pain stop you from progressing and moving forward…

 

Until next time,

Stay Blessed,

Tosin xo

 

My Love…

When my love and I¬†first met there was an instant attraction. It was magnetic. As we stare at each other from across the room, it was almost like time froze. We were both lost in that second, the air was oozing of sweetness, gazing into each other’s eyes hoping that this chance won’t pass us by…

Our eyes said¬†it all. From then on, life as we know it changed. Believing that this new and fresh feeling of ours we planted would grow and blossom into a¬†fruit of everlasting love…

 

My love and I created a world together, a world protected by the walls of desire and faith. Faith in our new found love and bond we shared. Nothing could get in between that. Bricks made from passion and air out of trust. We were both secured in this world of ours…

Dreams were made, fantasies were displayed. My love and I were inseparable, like Siamese twins, one could not live without the other…

 

So, we thought…

 

As time goes by the look in my love’s eyes begins to change… The clear blue skies I once read in his eyes are now dark and gloomy… The smile you once out on my face is starting to fade… The tears you promised me I wouldn’t shed is starting fall… The burden you said you would carry is now weighing on me…

And your kiss is now cold.

Oh, how I hoped and prayed that the world we once¬†built with our hearts would not be destroyed¬†by the hands we tried to separate…

But… I can’t keep holding on to you with my fingertips, knowing that you are slipping away from me. I can’t keep trying to revive the fire once had… I can’t keep trying to glue back the pieces of the love we once shared. And I can’t keep throwing back to¬†the first we met in hopes of you staying to relive our past…

 

My love, it hurts to accept that our beautifully¬†created world has now come to an impaired end… it’s time to let my love go and accept that our love has run its course… Accept that the promises once made is better left unfulfilled…

 

 

 

Liebster Award

Well, Thank you Ms AnonymouslyAfroIrish, I did not expect to see my name whilst reading your blog post haha. Thank you so much for the acknowledgement ūüôā

I don’t know where to begin….¬† I’ll start by apologising for responding so late, I’m sure its over and forgotten now lol. But hey, better late than never right ūüėČ

9 Random Facts About (If you guys are interested in knowing )

  1. I love cartoons, yes I’m 22 and I love watching cartoons. It’s just a great way to escape reality sometimes and to relive my childhood even if it’s for an 1 hour. Hey Arnold, As Told By Ginger, Braceface, DragonBall Z, Rugrats, etc. I’m a 90’s baby so I know whats popping lol
  2. I crack myself up sometimes with the jokes and ideas that randomly come to my mind. A lot of my friends¬†think I’m weird because I have a strange sense of humour sometimes. Sure aren’t we all a little weird? lol
  3. I get bored easily, so I like to do different things. Whether it be food, going out, new adventures, etc. I like trying new things and going out outside my comfort zone
  4. I’ve got a big heart, When I care, I care with my whole heart. Without really expecting much back. So I do when I do something, I do it out of the kindness of my heart, without expecting much back or praise. (But I ain’t no fool now lol)
  5. I’m a daddy’s girl. Always has, always will be ūüôā
  6. I do love a little romance now, I may act like I don’t¬† but I do, a little but not overly cheesy. I love seeing people in love and just happy. It just brings me joy.
  7. I love listening to music from 70’s 80’s 90’s, pop, r&b, afrobeat, South African¬†house music, soul, hip-hop, trap etc.
  8. I love learning about history, and things that effects in society. I like to be aware of things and be knowledgeable.
  9. I’m not afraid to say I’m sorry and accept my fault.

 

Questions from AnonymouslyAfroIrish

  1. What is your favourite quote?

I have a lot of quotes I love but funny enough, it’s mostly bible verses that are my favourites. 1 John 4:4 “Little children, you are from God and have overcome them, for he who is in you is greater than he who is in the world”

This quote really touches my heart when I first read it. It gives me hope that God has given power me and through him, I can overcome anything! That means a lot that God is with me.

2. What is your favourite childhood memory?

When I would play outside with my brothers and friends. Cycling around, not having the care in the world. The feeling that those moments would last forever. I remember a particular moment when I was playing a chasing¬†game with my brothers and friends, it feels like it was just yesterday. That childish feeling, the excitement that one could not explain. The rush and the adrenaline. Everything is moving so fun but time didn’t matter.

3. The hardest thing you’ve ever had to do?

It might seem a little strange to say this, but reality. When you know you have to face reality… Face the music as they would say… That’s definitely one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do…

4. Where do you see yourself 10 years from now?

Funny enough if you asked me this question 5 years ago or even 3 years ago, I would tell exactly where I saw myself. But now, I just like to take things one step at a time. Do what I do now, hope for the best and leave the rest in God’s hand. Matthew 6:34 “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble”.

5. How does writing your blog make you feel?

It makes me feel free… I know it sounds strange, but it makes me feel free. Free to express myself. My fear, to desire, the talents and my hopes for anyone… Sometimes you can’t find the right words to say… But suddenly writing it seems a lot easier than saying it. I get lost when writing, in my own little world… Don’t know, it just feels amazing…

6. What is your favourite book?

Shame by¬†Jasvinder Sanghera, what made me love this book was the bravery the woman had. In this world filled with so many disappointments, hardships and “no” rather than “yes”. She found her voice…

7. What are your biggest regrets?

I use to live my life having regrets but now I don’t… Take it as they are… Take it as a lesson rather than a regret. Life is too short to have regrets ūüôā

8. What is your biggest achievement to date?

I would like to believe my biggest achievement today is following my dreams. I’ve always dreamt of becoming a lawyer and more when I was a child… I know that sounds crazy, haha, but believe it or not I’ve known what I wanted when I was a child. And I thank God that I’ve been given the grace to follow through with it.

 

Purple Award

I would like to nominate (Would love to see your answers)

YOUAREGOLDEN

amexawrites

Here are my questions

  1. What inspired to start a blog?
  2. What is your favourite memory
  3. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
  4. If you could give someone $1,000,000 who would you give it to?
  5. What are your biggest regrets?
  6. The hardest thing you’ve ever had to do?

Don’t forget to Link me now ūüôā

The rules to the Liebster award can be found here. It really is a great platform for us as bloggers to find out a bit more about each other and a great excuse for us to be the nosy human beings that we all are at heart.

Picture…

 

Smiling to myself as I stare hopelessly at a picture us.

The twinkle in ours and the care-free smiles on our faces said it all. It was a moment worth capturing.

A moment captured and turned into a lifetime of memories…

Captured in that very moment is the love and happiness we once shared. The plans and dreams we had, our smiles replicating our young and ambitious hearts.

That is the beauty of pictures it creates you in a time-machine that takes you back to that very moment without your feet leaving the ground. Takes you on a trans, filled with emotions and memories locked into that one picture.

The thoughts and emotions we once felt is all a memory captured in that picture. The friendships lost, love lost and different paths taken does not illustrate what is in the picture.

Some may say that a picture is a lie. You can hide behind the camera. Fake the smile, fake the moment. But one thing that cannot be changed from a picture is the lifetime of memories it holds.

A moment captured in time can never be erased.

You may have changed and things around may have too… But the picture will always stay the same…

A moment captured and turned into a lifetime of memories…

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Mirror Mirror

 

Each day she looks into the mirror preparing herself for the day ahead. She hopes to imitate the idea of perfection for the eyes of those who will see her…
See her for this image she sees in the mirror…

Her beautiful brown eyes, her soft pink lips, her rosy cheeks, her little button nose and her curly hair. She hopes this is what people will see once they see her. That perfection,¬†she sees staring back at her…

She achieves her desire for acceptance, to be upheld to this idea of the perfection she sees staring back at her…

Unknown to others those beautiful brown eyes of hers is the window to her soul, her pain, her sadness…

The mirror does not seem to capture the truth behind the ‘perfection’ but reflects the image staring it…

The mirror does not seem to capture the pain those lips of hers refuse to speak or the tears she tries to fight…

The mirror does not reflect the lies behind the smile… But the image of this beautiful girl staring back at it…

It seems as though the mirror only reflects the image she wants it to reflect…

It’s like a beautifully decorated box with nothing but broken piece inside…

 

 

4 Year Anniversary

4 years ago I decided to go natural. But to my surprise, this new journey I was about to embark on was going to change the way I look at life.

Silly right? To believe that your natural hair could mean something, opening a door you never thought was existed.

It has a become a statement, a movement, empowerment… And a whole new level of self-love.

Growing up, I never quite understood the meaning of what my kinky natural hair meant. I never understood the beauty of it. I was so fond of the idea of having straight silky hair.Not knowing that I was limiting myself to the idea that straight hair was the only type of hair that was beautiful. Not realising that there is beauty in all hair types…

Whether, straight, curly, wavy or kinky afro, your natural hair is beautiful.

However, what made me appreciate kinky natural hair through the years was the uniqueness…

The coils, the kinks, the shrinkage, the afro, it’s all beautiful. Like saying goes, my hair is my crown. That alone made me feel like royalty. To see my hair as this glorious crown that was made by God…

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I could go on and on about natural hair, its beauty and of course how society over the years had made natural hair to be this ‘taboo’.

Nevertheless, this generation¬†has definitely started embracing a lot more and for that, I’m very happy…

Over the years I have learnt quite a things about natural hair and the effort it requires…

So if you are deciding to natural or you are already natural and you’re struggling, here are a few tips that helped me over the years

  1. Know Why You’re Going Natural & Be Well-Informed

It’s important for you to know why you’re going in first place. And for you to be well informed. When I first went natural I wanted my hair to grow and I thought that going natural would increase my chances of my hair growing. I didn’t know that you could have healthy growing relaxed hair. However, going natural does increase your chances of your hair growing much more because you aren’t using harsh chemicals that suppress your hair. However, if you aren’t formed on how to care for your natural hair, you may not retain your length.

2. Everyone’s Hair Is Different

It’s important to know that your hair is different from the next person’s hair. What works for them may not work for you. As a result, it is important to know what works for your hair type. Try different types of products and see which product your hair likes.

3. Low Manipulation

It’s important to avoid manipulating as much as possible. Try protective styles, twists, cornrows, or even wig!! lol, Try to finger detangle more rather than using a comb. I know using a comb is easier and quicker, however, finger detangling reduces breakage.

4. Be Patient, Hair Grows

Our hair grows approximately 1/2 inch a month. Whether you notice it or not, your hair grows. Some grow faster than others but all our hair grows. Try documenting your hair journey each month to see the difference.

5. You Are What You Eat

I’m sure it’s not the first time you’ve heard this but it’s important to eat as healthy as much as you can. Not only is it great for your health and skin but you’ll see a huge difference in your hair.

Until Next Time,

Stay Blessed,

Tosin xo

“Why Me?”…

Hi there, it has been a while since my last blog post… I know right, terrible! I’ve been extremely busy with college, and, well, life also happened.

Happy New Month by the way! I can’t believe we’re already in June, News Year feels like just yesterday… It’s crazy how time flies. Nevertheless, Thank God for his mercy and the gift of life.

During my time away, I had to give myself time to think and reevaluate everything… My life, my relationship with God, my purpose and plans.

I got to a point where things were looking very foggy. It was like I couldn’t see past the fog, no light at the end of the tunnel. As crazy as it may sound, I was just confused. I was angry, frustrated, tired, worried and at some point, I felt defeated…

I began to question God, my purpose and why I was in the position I was in. I was even angry at God at a point. Can you believe it, little me, angry at the Alpha and Omega! The beginning and the end? Creator of Heaven and Earth?

I was so silly! But that was the how I felt at that particular moment in time. I let my emotions and my situation get the best of me in that moment.

The point I’m trying to make is that we go through seasons where things are rough. Storms comes and the sky is as dark as ever. None to talk to and nowhere to go.

You may begin to ask yourself why is this happening to me? I’ve worked so hard for this job or interview, or this exam, etc. and I did not get what you wanted or what I felt you deserved.

And could also find yourself questioning why at your age you have not acquired this or that or maybe not have made a certain amount of money. It gets tiring sometimes, and as a result, you ask yourself, “Why Me?”…

Nevertheless, a good friend once told me about the story of Job in the Bible. How he lost everything and still, he praised and honoured God…

That message alone touched my heart. And to think that Job went through all of that and still worshipped God is truly amazing.

It made feel like, as though what I felt and feel is a problem, is tiny compared to what Job went through. Moreover, there are other people in this world that go through difficult times and still, they praise God and are full of joy…

Jeremiah 29:11¬†“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

James 1:¬†2-5¬† “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds. because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you”.

It is very easy for us to worship God when things are bright and comfortable. There are even times when things become too easy for us we don’t appreciate it.

Our faith is truly tested by the trials we go through.

Our trials and tribulations prepare us for greater things. Through faith, we shall overcome.

It’s hard sometimes because this life is full of ups and downs. Discouragement from the world and sometimes self-discouragement. Nevertheless, God is and will be in control. Believe in him, even when you don’t believe in yourself because¬†he will give you the strength.

Isaiah 26:4 “Trust in the LORD forever, for the LORD GOD is an everlasting rock”.

We are not perfect, we fall sometimes, but getting up and walking, trusting in God’s power will always be for the best…

Until next time,

Stay Blessed,

Tosin

 

 

Enough Is Enough….

Its always great to meet someone you get along with.. a friend, a partner, whoever it may be..

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It’s great to find someone you can laugh with, share your thoughts with and occasionally be vulnerable with…

Let’s be honest, it’s an amazing feeling to meet someone that you feel truly cares for you and understands you…

But… sometimes, unfortunately, things happen, people change, or you figured out that you didn’t really know them, to begin with…

 

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You missed some signs along the way…

As a result, your impression of them and the relationship or friendship changes. You start to question everything, even yourself…

In spite of that, sometimes because of your feelings towards them or a situation you start to make excuses.

Excuses to why this and that is happening, “maybe it’s me?”, “they’re just going through something”, “but he/she is a nice person, they’re just having a bad day”…

And the excuses keeps coming and coming¬†until you find yourself not even noticing that something is wrong in the relationship…

I am not an expert in relationships but I do know that the road is not always so smooth, why? well because people are different, they come from different backgrounds, they have been raised differently from you, their ideas¬†wants, future plans, beliefs etc. I could try to explain more but we will be here for a long time and we don’t want that haha.

Nevertheless one of the many things that are needed a relationship or friendship is trust, understanding, respect and compromise…

As a result, I have come to realise that you can’t force it.. like the saying goes “sometimes love just isn’t enough”. Same goes to friendships, you may care and have love for your friend but if both of you can’t seem to get it right together, then let it go…

Does it mean you’re a bad person? Does it mean both of you are bad people? Does it mean you’re a quitter?..

No! It just means, enough is enough…

You can’t always force someone to be in life, or force the relationship because it will only cause issues for you further down.

Sometimes in life, ours journeys with some people should only last for a moment but somehow we confuse that for a lifetime.

The writing may be on the wall that this friendship or relationship could become toxic but somehow we allow ourselves be blinded by our emotions that we eventually compromise.

Nonetheless, it can stop but only when you want it to stop .. You need to realise by yourself when you’ve had enough.

You need to know when enough is enough.

Just remember that if that person is out of your life, it’s for the best. However, make sure you are at peace.

It is never a bad idea to still care for that person or wish them well. (From a distance maybe haha)

Life is too short to waste your time on something that doesn’t work, and won’t work.

And always remember that God will give you the strength and the ability to see what it is that you have to do in order to move on and move forward.

“He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak” ¬†Isaiah 40:29¬†

“But you, LORD, do not be far from me. You are my strength; come quickly to help me” ¬†Psalm 22:19¬†

 

Until Next Time,

Stay Blessed,

Tosin xo

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