In honour of Women’s Day

“The best protection any woman can have… is courage” – Elizabeth Cady Stanton


There was a time I was standing outside in the freezing cold, desperately waiting for the next bus to arrive. I tried distracting myself with music. Listening to music that would occupy my mind and carry me along to a warm location. Comfortable in the little space I made for myself on this cold miserable day, I looked out every so often in hopes of catching the sight of bus 38A.

As I glanced out for another look I saw 2 young boys and a girl. They were carefree, playful and having the time of their life. It brought me joy to see that the weather did not take away their cheerful spirit… With the laughter and soft chit chats, then came the words from one of the little boys, “you’re a girl, you aren’t strong enough to play with us…” And just like that, I felt those words crush the little girl’s spirit… She stood there in disbelief as tears came down her face… I was so caught up in what was happening that I didn’t notice when the bus I was waiting for so desperately had parked in front of me. As I got on to the bus, sat down thanking God the bus driver had turned on the heating, I still couldn’t help but replay the incident I just witnessed.


I couldn’t get the image of the girl crying out my head, she probably just witnessed her first discrimination.  Though the issue with the children may not appear serious because of the consensus that “kids will be kids, they don’t mean what they’re doing etc.” But what people don’t understand is that children learn these behaviours, especially from their family, schools etc. Those boys knowingly or unknowingly are being groomed from an early age to believe that girls are not allowed to do certain things and for that, they should be subjected to traditional norms that could potentially oppress girls.


Getting closer to my destination, I continue to stare out the window with different thoughts running through my mind about how that one incident tells a story of how a woman is still looked at by some… Nevertheless, I’m still happy.


Well, I’m happy that we’re in a time that women are much more celebrated and using their voice. Although there are some challenges, nevertheless, the changes and efforts that have been made over the decades to shape the perspective of a woman have created an evolution that we women are living today.

That little girl may have gotten the first taste of what she will experience in some stages in her life as a woman, but she is opportune to live in a time that women are speaking out, following their dreams, doing their works, not letting the ‘traditional norms’ that had once tried to subjected for decades hold them back anymore.


A woman is powerful, a woman is strong, a woman is intelligent, a woman is fierce, a woman is beautiful, a woman is courageous.

The hardships women have experienced has shaped us into the fierce beings that we are today, and I believe will carry us everywhere we go.

We are making our own rules and letting our uniqueness and traits of as a woman strive in our abilities to accomplish our dreams…


“She made broken look beautiful and strong look invincible. She walked with the Universe on her shoulders and made it look like a pair of wings” – Ariana Dancu


Finally, at my stop, I got out of the bus, looking out with a smile on my face knowing well that I proud and happy to be a woman.


To that little girl, wipe away your tears, you are in a time that a woman can set her own rules and follow her own dreams…


Happy International Women’s Day

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Stay Blessed,

Sincerely Tosin






One of the biggest struggles we Christians can all relate to is forgiveness…

Forgiveness can be very hard especially when you’ve been hurt badly. Hurt to the point that the pain it left almost broke you… And sometimes the pain could be because of us failing ourselves and finding it hard to forgive ourselves.


I know I have…


I’ve made some mistakes in my time and at some point, I couldn’t find the heart to forgive myself. I carried the burden for so long and it weighed on me day in and day out. I found myself, disappointed and angry. I didn’t feel good enough and because of that, I started to distant myself from God…


I prayed less and less, read my Bible less and less. I was ashamed and worried that God was not happy with me. All because I couldn’t imagine God forgiving me and me not forgiving myself.


But then…. I realised that when we start to condemn ourselves constantly, we are opening the door to doubt, worry,  fear and shame. Those feelings and emotions we dwell on could eventually build a wedge between us and Christ. And that is exactly what the evil one wants. He wants us to continually doubt ourselves and distance ourselves from God.

But the God we serve is merciful…

That revelation alone gave me the courage to forgive myself.

Daniel 9:9 “The Lord our God is merciful and forgiving, even though we have rebelled against him”

Psalm 86:5 “You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you”


The thing is forgiveness is a very important factor in our Christian life. It may not always be the easiest thing to do, considering that we are still human, and we sometimes feel things, however, forgiveness is very important and powerful.


Our hearts are free and light, our shoulders are free and relaxed. That is what forgiveness does to us, we feel free… Because not forgiving can leave us entrapped in our own emotion. And sometimes we could be handing over our power because we refuse to rise and accept the gift given to us through Christ…


1 John 2:2 “In him, we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace” 


It is so important that we as children of God know that although we may make mistakes and fall sometimes, we shouldn’t however, always let our failures and mistakes hinder us from progressing and moving forward with our relationship with God.

Our walk with Jesus Christ is a continuous journey and we learn along the way. The strength to overcome the emotions and feelings is given to us.


Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”


Isaiah 41:19 “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand”


It is important to know that although you may have made some mistakes, I know I have, God still loves us and will always love us. Let your hearts not be weighed by doubts or disappointment. Let your heart be free because God has already forgiven you before you even confessed he just wants you to come to him, acknowledge those mistakes, admit to it and he will accept you with open arms.


To those that have wronged you, don’t give them power over you but be free and light-hearted. Although the pain may be fresh or old, it can still be healed…


So, let your hearts to be free…

Don’t let your mistakes and the others who have caused you pain stop you from progressing and moving forward…


Until next time,

Stay Blessed,

Tosin xo


“Why Me?”…

Hi there, it has been a while since my last blog post… I know right, terrible! I’ve been extremely busy with college, and, well, life also happened.

Happy New Month by the way! I can’t believe we’re already in June, News Year feels like just yesterday… It’s crazy how time flies. Nevertheless, Thank God for his mercy and the gift of life.

During my time away, I had to give myself time to think and reevaluate everything… My life, my relationship with God, my purpose and plans.

I got to a point where things were looking very foggy. It was like I couldn’t see past the fog, no light at the end of the tunnel. As crazy as it may sound, I was just confused. I was angry, frustrated, tired, worried and at some point, I felt defeated…

I began to question God, my purpose and why I was in the position I was in. I was even angry at God at a point. Can you believe it, little me, angry at the Alpha and Omega! The beginning and the end? Creator of Heaven and Earth?

I was so silly! But that was the how I felt at that particular moment in time. I let my emotions and my situation get the best of me in that moment.

The point I’m trying to make is that we go through seasons where things are rough. Storms comes and the sky is as dark as ever. None to talk to and nowhere to go.

You may begin to ask yourself why is this happening to me? I’ve worked so hard for this job or interview, or this exam, etc. and I did not get what you wanted or what I felt you deserved.

And could also find yourself questioning why at your age you have not acquired this or that or maybe not have made a certain amount of money. It gets tiring sometimes, and as a result, you ask yourself, “Why Me?”…

Nevertheless, a good friend once told me about the story of Job in the Bible. How he lost everything and still, he praised and honoured God…

That message alone touched my heart. And to think that Job went through all of that and still worshipped God is truly amazing.

It made feel like, as though what I felt and feel is a problem, is tiny compared to what Job went through. Moreover, there are other people in this world that go through difficult times and still, they praise God and are full of joy…

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

James 1: 2-5  “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds. because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you”.

It is very easy for us to worship God when things are bright and comfortable. There are even times when things become too easy for us we don’t appreciate it.

Our faith is truly tested by the trials we go through.

Our trials and tribulations prepare us for greater things. Through faith, we shall overcome.

It’s hard sometimes because this life is full of ups and downs. Discouragement from the world and sometimes self-discouragement. Nevertheless, God is and will be in control. Believe in him, even when you don’t believe in yourself because he will give you the strength.

Isaiah 26:4 “Trust in the LORD forever, for the LORD GOD is an everlasting rock”.

We are not perfect, we fall sometimes, but getting up and walking, trusting in God’s power will always be for the best…

Until next time,

Stay Blessed,




Decisions, Decisions… Who do I ask? Where do I go?



When I first started this my head was filled with ideas, thoughts, advice and experiences that I wanted to share.

I thought that when next I post a blog it would be filled with motivation or some feeling that I usually get whenever I’m preparing for a blog post…

This time the feeling is different…

I’ve gone through something for quite some time but I have a habit of not dealing with things properly sometimes.

Yes! this a flaw of mine, I admitting it and I am working on it.

I realised that some of the decisions I’ve made in my life were not always what I wanted deep down for myself…

The most recent was moving to the Netherlands…

I admit that at first the thought of moving away to a different country was exciting. Starting fresh, new life, new experience, a new university and new course… It was all just exciting.

However as time went by it started to hit me that I didn’t want this, just not yet. It wasn’t like it was my first choice. Moreover, the other offer I received wasn’t my first choice either. However, I was convinced that this choice was the best choice, a fresh start and something different.

I even prayed to God for direction but somehow I still felt lost. Crowded with opinions from family and friends and self-disappointment, I caved in and decided to go for it… Believing that it’s in God’s plan, that’s why I got this course in the first place…

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”  Jeremiah 29:11

And let me just say the hassle of getting in, moving, etc. made me doubt things even more but still, I went for it.

The point I’m trying to make is that don’t make a decision based on opinions and circumstances. You know what you want at the end of the day if you search within yourself. Ask God for direction, ignore distractions and listen to whatever direction he gives.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6

I have been faced with so many challenges here… Nonetheless, my time here has given me the opportunity to grow more as a person. I understand myself more and life. I believe that there is a reason why I’m here, I don’t know exactly but I believe that God brought me here to grow, learn and gain more opportunities.

Sometimes the bad outweighs the good and sometimes the good outweighs the bad but trust and believe when there is life, there is hope.

It is very easy to get distracted and confused about where to go next and what decision to make.

Just remember that every decision you make in life will affect you good or bad, but be sure that when making those decisions of yours ask God for direction.

Getting advice is great from your loved ones but sometimes it does not always lead to where you would like to be or should be. In fact, when you go through whatever it is you go through because of the decisions you made based on advice and opinions, those people may not always be there with you. As result, you may struggle by yourself.

I’m not saying that receiving advice or guidance from your family or friends is bad a thing because I ask for advice from them too. But the most important one to seek guidance from is God.

God is the only one that knows what’s best for you 1000% and can lead you towards the right path.

Even if you miss your way during your journey just remember that God will always be there to put you back on the right track…. only if you ask…

Until next time,

Stay blessed,

Tosin xo





So What Happens Now?…

1st post of the Year!

Is it too late to say happy new year? lol Well I guess its possible to still squeeze in a happy new year greeting since its still January.

Well the year started off with a bang alright.. with whats going on with our society, the economy, politics, social media, etc. The world is constantly changing every minute.

In the midst of it all, I was faced with many challenges. For a quick second I questioned myself as a person. Not that it was a new thing, however this time it was different.

I found myself asking this question, ‘So What Happens Now?’, faced with so many different obstacles all at once, feeling like I can’t talk to anyone or feeling like my issues may not be relatable… Although I must say most of the time I kept a good facade going, smiling while suffering, my mum use to say jokingly.. I’m sure at some point in our lives we have kept a facade going..

And the truth is, whether we like it or not life must go on regardless of what it is we’re going though, because time waits for no one, especially in this fast and busy world we are in..

Nonetheless I have hope, I have faith in God that in the time of trouble, he is alive, well and fighting. However I can’t help but feel stuck sometimes and I ask myself “So What Happens Now?”..Then the answer comes.. Jesus is what happens now.. Prayer is what happens now.. Breakthrough is what happens now..

Psalms 3:4 I cried aloud to the LORD,  and he answered me from his holy hill. Selah

Psalms 50:15 …call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify me.

Isaiah 41:10…”Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you, yes, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.” 

Although it is easier said that done, but truly I say to you in the time of need, God is here and well, willing to help you, only if you have faith in him and allow him to do his works.

I found myself sometimes in spite of these trials, remembering that God is alive and does have a plan for me. I may not always understand it, but that is one of the beauties of the Lord, he always has a plan, whether you know it or not. You just have to trust in him.

Jeremiah 29:11… For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Our faith will be tested in the time of trouble, I know my faith and my trust in the Lord has been tested in the times of trouble.. However even if your faith is as small as a mustard seed, a friend once told me, God truly does come through for you.

So when that time comes and you are faced with challenges and you begin to ask yourself “So What Happens Now?”, just remember that Prayer is what happens now.. Breakthrough is what happens now.. Because as a child of God, all things are added unto thee.

Until next time,

Stay Blessed,

Tosin xo

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