Mirror Mirror

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Each day she looks into the mirror preparing herself for the day ahead. She hopes to imitate the idea of perfection for the eyes of those who will see her…
See her for this image she sees in the mirror…

Her beautiful brown eyes, her soft pink lips, her rosy cheeks, her little button nose and her curly hair. She hopes this is what people will see once they see her. That perfection, she sees staring back at her…

She achieves her desire for acceptance, to be upheld to this idea of the perfection she sees staring back at her…

Unknown to others those beautiful brown eyes of hers is the window to her soul, her pain, her sadness…

The mirror does not seem to capture the truth behind the ‘perfection’ but reflects the image staring it…

The mirror does not seem to capture the pain those lips of hers refuse to speak or the tears she tries to fight…

The mirror does not reflect the lies behind the smile… But the image of this beautiful girl staring back at it…

It seems as though the mirror only reflects the image she wants it to reflect…

It’s like a beautifully decorated box with nothing but broken piece inside…

 

 

“Why Me?”…

Hi there, it has been a while since my last blog post… I know right, terrible! I’ve been extremely busy with college, and, well, life also happened.

Happy New Month by the way! I can’t believe we’re already in June, News Year feels like just yesterday… It’s crazy how time flies. Nevertheless, Thank God for his mercy and the gift of life.

During my time away, I had to give myself time to think and reevaluate everything… My life, my relationship with God, my purpose and plans.

I got to a point where things were looking very foggy. It was like I couldn’t see past the fog, no light at the end of the tunnel. As crazy as it may sound, I was just confused. I was angry, frustrated, tired, worried and at some point, I felt defeated…

I began to question God, my purpose and why I was in the position I was in. I was even angry at God at a point. Can you believe it, little me, angry at the Alpha and Omega! The beginning and the end? Creator of Heaven and Earth?

I was so silly! But that was the how I felt at that particular moment in time. I let my emotions and my situation get the best of me in that moment.

The point I’m trying to make is that we go through seasons where things are rough. Storms comes and the sky is as dark as ever. None to talk to and nowhere to go.

You may begin to ask yourself why is this happening to me? I’ve worked so hard for this job or interview, or this exam, etc. and I did not get what you wanted or what I felt you deserved.

And could also find yourself questioning why at your age you have not acquired this or that or maybe not have made a certain amount of money. It gets tiring sometimes, and as a result, you ask yourself, “Why Me?”…

Nevertheless, a good friend once told me about the story of Job in the Bible. How he lost everything and still, he praised and honoured God…

That message alone touched my heart. And to think that Job went through all of that and still worshipped God is truly amazing.

It made feel like, as though what I felt and feel is a problem, is tiny compared to what Job went through. Moreover, there are other people in this world that go through difficult times and still, they praise God and are full of joy…

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

James 1: 2-5  “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds. because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you”.

It is very easy for us to worship God when things are bright and comfortable. There are even times when things become too easy for us we don’t appreciate it.

Our faith is truly tested by the trials we go through.

Our trials and tribulations prepare us for greater things. Through faith, we shall overcome.

It’s hard sometimes because this life is full of ups and downs. Discouragement from the world and sometimes self-discouragement. Nevertheless, God is and will be in control. Believe in him, even when you don’t believe in yourself because he will give you the strength.

Isaiah 26:4 “Trust in the LORD forever, for the LORD GOD is an everlasting rock”.

We are not perfect, we fall sometimes, but getting up and walking, trusting in God’s power will always be for the best…

Until next time,

Stay Blessed,

Tosin

 

 

Goodbye 2016… Hello 2017

“The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written.  We can help write that story by setting goals” Melody Beattie… 

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So New Years in on Sunday, it’s strange right? How the year had flown by so quickly… I remember the 1st of January 2016 like it was just yesterday, wishing everyone ‘happy new year’, setting goals and new years resolutions…

I know it may sound cliché but yes I had new years resolutions, however, I may not have fulfilled it all or even remembered it all but I made new years resolutions.

It’s funny how life plays out, you plan and plan sometimes and things don’t always work according to your plans: That is one of the biggest lessons for me in 2016, your plans don’t always work out. However that doesn’t mean greater isn’t coming, it just means that that plan may not have been the best for us or sometimes we may not be in control of that situation.

Which brings me to the next thing I’ve learnt this year, control. I’ve always worried when I’m not in control or I can’t control situations. I know at some point we’ve all had that problem of freaking out when we can’t control certain things. Nonetheless, I’ve learnt that God is in control if you allow him to be in control. He is well, alive and ready to take control of all your situations and circumstances. “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.”  Jeremiah 29:11

As believers, we sometimes struggle with trusting God wholeheartedly and letting him take control. We depend so much on the physical and our abilities that we somehow forget that God is the creator of heaven and earth and can and will do all things, only if you accept, trust and allow him to do his work. “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”  Isaiah 41:10

Although I have learnt a lot more, however, these are one of the most important things I’ve learnt this year, as well as valuing myself more, believing in myself and taking more risks.

I must say I have certainly taken a lot more risks this year, like moving to the Netherlands to study, starting a YouTube channel and starting this blog.

I also graduated this year too.

Although this year did have its ups and downs, nevertheless I am grateful to God that I alive to witness the end of this year.

I am ready to start the new year with an open mind ready to take on anything by the grace of God.

It is always great to reflect and see how much you’ve improved. It may hard sometimes to keep track or to appreciate where you’ve started from because sometimes we get distracted. But do take that time to reflect on the good and the bad and see how you have improved and how you can improve. Moreover, it is always a great idea to set goals for the new year, take more risks and to take things one step at a time.

So I wish you all a great new year and happy holidays,

Until next time,

Stay Blessed,

Tosin xo

 

Where Does Your Value Lie?…..

Have you ever asked yourself, “is it all worth it?”

Money, Popularity, Fame, Fortune, Cars etc… Is it really all worth it?

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Don’t get me wrong, it’s great to have money, have expensive things, etc. especially when you’ve worked hard to get those things: of course, you should enjoy the luxuries you’ve created by the works you’ve put in.

However placing your values on those material things may create a problem. Why? Because you are never fully satisfied with what you have. Once you have the money, you may want more, once you get the attention or whatever it may be, you may want more. Placing your values on things like that most times never ends well…

“We should never let material things get ahead of God or become so important in our lives that we can’t walk away from them if He tells us to. Anything you own that has a hold on you is a problem.” Joyce Meyer

We sometimes get so caught up in material things, that we forget that there are more important things in life. We forget that sometimes that these things pass away and are not permanent…

“Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Matthew 6: 19-21

Moreover we sometimes feel that these material things can fill the void that may be there in our hearts: to be honest it never really does, in fact, that void tends to get bigger and bigger. As result, we feel the best way to fill that void is by indulging in material things…

Nonetheless, as a Christians, we should ask ourselves where do our values lie? Do we place it on the things of this world?

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t enjoy life, or the luxuries or set goals for yourselves: sure I have goals I’ve set for myself. However, it is important that we know where are values lie in order to have a solid foundation.

“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you”.  Matthews 6:33

If we do set our values on Christ, your faith in God and serving him diligently, things will work accordingly. It will give us that extraordinary awareness that “yes” it is great you have all these things but there is more to life than it. Moreover, it makes us more grounded and humble…

“But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation, into a snare, into many senseless and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs.” 1 Timothy 6:9-10

Nevertheless, I’m not trying to discourage anyone, I’m just sharing with you one of the things I am constantly reminded of, which is values, and where they lie?..

Nonetheless, like I said before there is nothing wrong with enjoying yourself, living a fab life, popularity, fame, having latest clothes, fast cars etc. Just remember that they are not everything. You as a person are much more than that. You should not place your values on material things because “Material things are delightful, but they’re not important”. Richard Branson.

Until next time guys,

Stay Blessed,

Tosin xo…